As the Redneck World turns: Party Poopers

Okay so this episode of redneck world turns brings us to my nieces birthday party.  Nothing funny about this…but I have come to realize that my brother- in-law is an ass.  Wait let me rephrase that.  I knew he was one this just makes him a bigger one.  He never treats his step daughter like a real daughter.  She is always a second class citizen.  I see it all the time when he dotes on his little blood child.  Which is really sad because this child really needs a father figure in her life since her real father is a dead beat.  My sister in law was telling me that all the kids got 50 bucks for their birthday…she got 8 bucks.  What the *&@*.  I mean I know I only gave her 10 bucks but that is really sad that her “father” gave her barely anything.  I really want to hit him with a baseball bat. I mean I knew he treats his woman like shit but a kid?  What is wrong with people.  She’s not dumb. I know she knows he treats her different.  Of course my man says stay out of it.  Though I really wanted to tell him you can buy beer and cigarettes but no gift for this kid?  What a dead beat.  Which leads me to my next complaint.  When you have a birthday party it’s only polite not to smoke while you have guests.  The kids at the party hell his kids don’t need to be around that crap.  That is one of the reasons I left early.  I would have loved to stay and chat to my sister in law since I haven’t seen her in forever but the smog was so bad I had to leave.  Ever since this last cold my lungs cannot tolerate the smoke.  I just hope she realizes I didn’t leave on her account but on his sorry ass for not being considerate.

Could it be true?

So yesterday I get a call from my ex-husbands ex-wife. Wow that was a mouthful.  Anyway she has a kid which means my kids have a half-sister.  Usually the kids just chat on the  phone but she wanted to talk to me instead.  Well she wanted to gossip to me.  I found out that my kids deadbeat just dropped by to see his kid. Apparently it had been a long while since he had done that.  I told her that I was getting some small amount of child support.  That is usually when he becomes dad again.  He hasn’t seen my kids in over 7 years.  I think its because my oldest called him a liar.  But anyway back to the juicy gossip. Apparently she has been harassing child support for her back child support.  Pretty much told them that no one was doing their job blah blah blah.  I think she aggravated her case worker to the point she want to get rid of her. 

So anyway apparently they threw his ass in jail since he is about 15,000 dollars behind.  Apparently they can’t get out of jail until they have paid for said back child support.  Well guess who came to his rescue.  MOMMY!  She got some money when nanny died.  So apparently she promise to pay 13,000 dollars in back child support for him.  He was released from jail.  What I am worried about is she probably put some strings attached to that money.  Like start being involved in your kids life.  I would rather he just give up his rights, which he won’t.  All he does is lie and make my kids life miserable.  He likes to make promises he never keeps. The money isn’t as important as my kids happiness and sanity. 


 So he goes to court today.  His ex told me I should be getting a hefty check in the bank very soon.  Which would be awesome and sickening at the same time.  I notice his Facebook status (cause I am a stalker) states that he is going to court. His ex swears she checked with child support and she is suppose to get her money after one state transfers the funds to our states.  Or so she says. My luck it will get lost in the transfer. So I am not trying to count my chickens before they are hatched.  But its hard not to get giddy.  Finally, time for pay back. 


 My next dilemma.  They money is back child support which mean I have already supported these kids without any help.  So this is payment to pay back what was already spent correct?  Does that mean I have the right to spend is as needed?  Or does this mean I need to bank it and save it? You know how people who pay child support gets pissed when its not spent on the kids. My question for you guys is how the correct way to spend it? I would get their fall clothes with it definitely.  But really they don’t need much since I already bought them a lot of stuff anyway. I would love for a down payment on a house to get the hell out of this TIN CAN.  The kids really need more space for their rooms.  Would that be wrong?  


Which will lead me to my next blog…the man getting pissed that I want a house and out of this TIN can. GRRRRR.  Feedback please!!!

Deadbeats: sperm donor

Okay so I have decided that I have a Facebook stalking problem. I found out that my ex has a Facebook page. I found it accidently you know that side bar you might know this person. I think that how stalkers are made on Facebook. Lure you in…and then your hooked. Why Do I find myself looking at his page? It’s not that I care . I sure as hell don’t love him. Still makes me puke a little thinking I was ever with him. So why? Is it because I wish his life sucked? Not really I just don’t understand why he doesn’t want to be a part of his kids lives. He can add his girlfriends kids on his kids list but not his own? Did I mention he has been married 2 more times after me. Has another kid he doesn’t pay child support on. And now he is working on the fourth family. Sterilization seriously needs to be reinstated. I thought a few weeks back the pic of him on new Harley was my last straw, especially since he is still 8,000 dollars behind on child support. It still makes me want to scream. WTH? I don’t understand how my brother in law who is disable is forced to pay all of his child support yet mine who is just a lazy piece of poo doesn’t? What judge is this chick paying off? *giggle* And how? But it got worse a few nights ago. Its amazing just how small the world is. She was not a patient so I can mention this and not hurt HIPPA. His ex wife number 2 was in the ER as friend. Told her she looked familiar. Yup she use to take my kids places when he didn’t come get them. My kids have a half sibling out there but I had no way of contacting her after they broke up. Apparently he told her I never wanted her and her kid anywhere near mine. I never said that nor would I ever do that to my kids. Regardless of how much I hate my ex I would never keep my kids from their family. They just choose not to be active in their lives. Apparently the small lump sum of child support I received in June was not disability from the Army. His grandmother left he a huge lump sum of money when she died and he gave a small amount to the kids owed child support. He paid cash for his bike, a Harley. The dumb ass used ex #2 address and the title came to her…lol
She told me she called DMV because supposedly he has no license due to be behind in child support. She tried to get him to sign his rights away. No luck he threatened to kill himself and raised Cain on her mother. I could be so lucky he would take himself out. Her kid wrote him a letter for veterans day and mentioned that he missed her birthday. That she loves him and wishes he would call her again. My kids are pass this point. They have more anger than wondering what they did to drive him away. He likes to lie a lot. Telling her what a bitch I was and he told many of our old friends that I wouldn’t let him see his kids. Hello we have a court order that he get them every other weekend and 4 weeks in the summer. Liar liar…wish you were on fire. GRR
So the good news found my kids sister and I gave her my number so we can get them together. Its been almost 5 years since they have seen her. How sad is that? How can you lie and keep your kids apart? That’s just sick and I hope there is a special hell for him. Its even sadder that I felt bad that he wasn’t working and I wasn’t pushing the issue of child support let alone giving up custody. All because he fought for our country. He still can seem to turn things on me. I believe its time for a lawyer! You have messed with my kids one to many times asshole!

Deadbeat dad's

I really don’t talk about my ex because he is a low life asshole. My 2 kids are not my husbands. They are from my first marriage. Now mind you I met him in the army. He thinks he is the shit because he has served his country and has been to Iraq 3 times…now i really appreciate what veterans have done for us but…grrrr
First let me tell you he has never been a father to these kids. Only when it appealed to him. Like when i wanted them on his weekend wouldn’t he pretend that it matter that he saw them. In the last 4 years he has seen them maybe 5 times…and none in almost the last 2 1/2 years. (btw i have a calendar with the dates, just take me to court prick) He never wrote the kids to tell them he was even alive while in Iraq. I know alot of people that never forgot to write their family. He is a truck driver for the army and even got hurt over in Iraq. So yes your a veteran.. But remember you were committed to the mental institute by me cause you tired to kill yourself before you ever were in Iraq so getting committed after is not an excuse not to contact your daughters. Its called a phone…can’t afford it? Its called a letter…if you can get a new tattoo every month u can afford a fucking 44 cent stamp! This is what his mood said on MySpace “ive been away for a while this i know,but i have to heal myself before i can be with those who are my soul,I DO LOVE MY DAUGHTERS” we haven’t received any calls or child support in about 2 yrs. And he loves his daughters? WTF? He swears he is stress from the war and is not safe to be around. But what about before he left for the war? When he saw the kids when it was convenient he would take them to McDonalds. My kids actually hated going there. He actually waited until the day he was leaving for Iraq and spent 30 mins with the kids in my yard. What kind of attention is that? My oldest wants to change her last name to my hubby’s. He is telling people I am the bitch that won’t let him see his kids? Hello i am the one that takes them to see him mom not him? where the hell was he when his oldest had surgery? he wasn’t in Iraq then? ah no! Does he even know what grade they are in? He wasn’t there for their first band concerts…or for their baptism. Or how hard his oldest is struggling in school. He doesn’t take them fishing like my hubby does. Or picks them up from school. He wasn’t there when they were sick or sad. Or when they had nightmares because they thought he died over there or crying because he doesn’t love them. Does he know just how he hurt his kids? No he doesn’t care…he hide behind his I am not safe to be around…i am not safe to be around..i might just wring your neck for all the pain you put MY kids you stupid sperm donor, married 3 times and can’t keep a woman cause you can’t stop screwing up… They have grown up these last 2 1/2 years without him. He can take his love and shove it up his ASS! He isn’t going to fix himself he was screw up a long time ago WAAAAY before the war…so don’t give me that crap! And for the spies that read my blogs and send it to him FUCK YOU!

okay i feel better…

Cutting the child in half

King Solomon once was in a predicament of having to cut a child in half because two woman were arguing over a child. What do you do when the parents that were never married fight over one? Who should get the child? Why is it the woman should get the child when I have seen just as many men raising kids? We have a black president now…so things are changing…so why can’t guys get full custody just as easy as woman? Just because she went thru labor that makes it her right?
Being on the other fence of this makes it difficult to support that fathers should have that equal right. My kids don’t see their sperm donor cause he is a low life. Its not that I don’t let him. Because no matter how much i loathe him I would never stand between him and his kids. Why would I want my kids growing up and realizing that I kept them from him. Because usually kids become the wiser and realize the one bad mouthing the parent and not letting them see them was being selfish. Which means they might have the kid for the first 18yrs but after than they may not want anything to do with the mom that shut the dad out.
So what do you tell the dad that wants custody? I don’t think he wants to take away her custody. Just switch week to week or just be allowed to see his kid without all the childish games. The biggest thing is he is tired of this bitch, because she has him jumping through all these hoops. He can’t date anyone or she won’t let him see his child. He isn’t allowed to have his kid over night because he might not hear her cry? Give me a brake. I like to choke the crap out of her.
I don’t understand. He works, doesn’t drink or smoke and wants to be in his kids life. He is a good dad and has never been arrested or in trouble. I think she just enjoys making his life miserable….when it was her that didn’t take the birth control pill in order to try to trap him. So apparently she wanted him in her life…grrr
The sad part is she is in her 20’s and still living with mommy? He at least has his own place…grr
So I am open to all advice..besides beating the crap out of her myself.

Cause I know I would go to jail…and I didn’t go thru all this hell of nursing school to blow it on one stupid little girl

Deadbeats

Deadbeats!!
I am so sick of all the deadbeats of the world. Who continue to use my tax money for their laziness. I would like to have my tax money to pay off my student loans…but instead I help feed, clothe, and supply cable for your kids since you won’t get a job…laying with your legs up and popping out more kids does not constitute as a job. I am not directing this to stay at home moms or the “real” disabled. I am talking about people who never plan on getting a job and continue to mooch off the good of others. Or say they are disabled because they have stress! Stress?? Get over it! It’s called life deal with it. Some of us eat stress for breakfast everyday…I so tired of your whining cause you’re not getting enough food stamps when you have dogs and cats that you are feeding. If you can’t feed yourself than you sure as hell don’t need more pets or more kids. I think the government should spend more money on helping those that want to better their life by going to college than white trash people who will never amount to nothing. STERILZATION!! Mind you I know there are people out there trying to find a job because the economy sucks…you had a job and now need assistance…the problem is the person that has been assisted for 5 yrs has taken all the money of the one who is really in need. What kind of messed up world is this.
Plus let’s bitch about the Non paying child supporters of the world. Pay up or go Jail! The government could use these people for side of the road trash picker uppers so they can pay for their kids…Instead of giving that job to the illegal immigrants…Hello let’s take care our own