Do you snoop?

Okay parents.  Do you snoop in your kids phones, computer, accounts, diaries?  Tell me the truth.  Are you a better parent for it or do you think that they deserve their privacy?  What if reading something makes you mad or realize you kids hate you.  What if reading something you find out you kid is having sex at an early age.  So tell me you feeling about snooping and keeping an eye on your kids.  I have complete control over my kids Facebook.  I don’t usually snoop on them but if something flags me I have no problem checking out messages or posts that she puts up. Besides the fact I found out she publicly posted the home number which made me mad.  I also found out she doesn’t want to go to the dance on Friday.  She doesn’t like the dress she has to choose from.  Her niece gave her a dress and it makes her look older.  As in 17 and she is only 14. I don’t think she needs to be parading around with her tatas half hanging out.  That’s my opinion.  I don’t think she need to advertising so young do you.  Okay so my dress she hates.  I told her all she had to do was state that she hated it.  Even though I think it looks great on her.  I do not think it’s out dated.  I am not a complete fashion moron.  Though I know it’s not black and no her boobs won’t show.  It does show of her figure nicely without shouting HOOTCHIE.  I mean come on.  My  other niece is posting pics of herself in her bra.  Her mom thought it was great for her boy friends to spend the night.  Um not this mom.  I am her mom not her friend.  But it still hurts that she can say some really hurtful things about me.  Things I wasn’t suppose to see.  But thing I can’t unsee.  I know if my mom read my diary she would FREAK out and probably cry.  But in today’s day an age there is sexing and Facebooking. Its not like a diary where it’s just your thoughts that should remain private.  You have to worry about drugs, sex and suicide.  Ugh…I wish this parenting was over with…some days it truly sucks.  So tell me your thoughts?  Am I prying too much?

There not mine...but

I have kids and I have at least taught them basic manners and etiquette. It's becoming harder and harder for me to keep my mouth shut anymore. I think the older I get the more I am becoming like my father. I am not afraid to voice my opinion anymore. Dealing with other peoples rude kids on a daily basis is really testing my patience. I am so tired of hearing excuses of why their children act the way they do. Anywhere from oh it's their moms fault for spoiling them or their dads fault for not being more active in their life. Let's not forget the favorite one of mine kids will be kids. Now mind you my kids are far from perfect. I still struggle with grade, gossip and bickering. However you will never see them climbing all over the furniture in restaurants or yelling and crying during a movie.

For example as i sit here in Starbucks 2 preteen girls are yammering at the top of their lungs and jumping from chair to chair. While i watch the look of disgust from the surround tables of people who are trying to work on homework. Others who are trying to finish up work emails or just wanting to enjoy some down time. I come to Starbucks to blog, read, Facebook check or just simply relax before work. These kids are being really rude running around and carrying on like 3 yr olds. Where is the parents? The 2 moms are talking with each other and pretending their kids are not with them.

Some of it these issues is that we are so in tuned without electronics that we ignore our children. I saw one lady busy yacking on phone while her kid, age 2 or so, was wandering around playing with the handicap button on the door. While I was in line at the store I was watching the kid thinking I could possibly catch the kid before she got into the road. Since at any time she could run out the door and into traffic. What is wrong with people today? I don't think people discipline their kids anymore either. They are too afraid to hurt their self esteem. The only way to build a great self esteem is character building. If everything is handed to them in the beginning of their life when they get out into the real world they will have no idea how to cope. Ideal with those rejects at work everyday. These 19 yr olds on disability for anxiety who have never been in the real world. Now I am not knocking anxiety it is a real disease. However because we are sheltering our children too much they don't have the skills to cope with everyday tasks or jobs. Well i didn't go to work because the boss hurt my feelings. I am not a people person because all my life I only communicated with my xbox and can't have real live conversations. Ugh. Irks the crap out of me. These are the people who will be taking care of our generation when we get older. Scary! I hope buy then they have robot CNAs. Because if I crap my diaper I know theatre all going to stand around and say I am not changing that. I don't like the smell. What how did you deal with you children's diapers? Oh my mom raised my kids cause I wasn't ready for them yet. Wow!

So for the love of God pay attention to your kids because the rest of the world is tired of babysitting. We are tired or listening to them are screaming and throwing their tantrums. Stop using the excuse I pick my battles. Because if you don't start acting like a parent you will have contributed to the downfall of this country. It's not cute when they act bad. You may laugh and say isn't funny that they Said shit? Um no makes them sound inbred and uneducated. It's not cute when they scream mine mine mine like this 8 yr old in Walmart I saw trying to take her toy from her 3 yr old brother. If you can't control your kids maybe you should keep them home. Because if not I may just tell you like I did the woman in the movies. If they dont get their kids for behind us from kicking and carrying on I will move down 4 rows where the parents are sitting and kick their seats though out the movie. Glad they heard me since I bitched loud enough. They removed their brats from behind me. Oh and by the way the ER is not the place to bring your children. Letting them run around and play in the floor where poop and pee and other germs are is just sick. If they are healthy keep them home because bringing them to the ER where sick people go will = sick kids 3 days later.

Do your job raise your kids. Nobody else wants to do your job.


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THE SLOB…RUN FOR YOUR LIFE!

I just don’t understand why my oldest can’t get through her head that her nasty dirty underwear don’t belong in the floor, bed needs to be made and half eaten food doesn’t belong shoved and hidden in her room.  It’s amazing that I left her father when she was 4 yrs. old and yet she does a lot of things he did.  Which drives me insane.  I left my ex for his hoardness and sloppy ways.  So tell me people when it’s your kid what the heck do you do?  You can’t run away from them or leave them.  No matter how much she gets grounded, spanked, goals set to improve, or just yelled at nothing works.  Positive or Negative she still is the nasty child that I love.  She answers the phone and tell important people that we can’t talk right now because we are napping.  Even though we have told her that all important calls need to be given to us.  At least this year her grades have improved. I have to always be on her about feeding her bird or dog.  Not to mention practice your instrument and do your homework.  This has been years of frustration and now she is 14yrs old.  Shouldn’t she know better by now?  I am constantly told by people I am mean because she is always grounded.  What am I suppose to do?  Let her do whatever she wants like her sperm donor’s moms did?  Now he is a burden to the world.  I don’t want her to be supported by the tax payers because she can’t keep a job.  It’s going to be worse for her because it will be hard for her to find a man that wants to marry a slob.  It’s so frustrating.  So please any advice?  Things to try?  Like I said we have tired lists and poster boards to remind her.  We have tried consequences and groundings.  Nothing works!!! GRRRR

Conversations: What dat?

So I walked down to my mother in laws to pick up a “mess of corn” (not my wording) anyway the clan of redneck children were there munching on frozen ice pops. Problem was no one got one for my niece. Who was politely longing at everyone's icey. So I got one out for her from the freezer. I tried to let her choose… what i got was a parrot…do you want Blue? bue or do you want red…red and we have yellow…ewwo and she sticks her 2 yr old fingers out…so i said blue it is…excited we went outside…where as to avoid dripping on mammy’s carpet. I figured by the time we were done she would be blue. I preceded to show her how to eat the popsicle which she would lick and it would fall back down in the plastic sheath. Finally she gave up trying to understand how to push it up and turned it up and drank the juice out. The tried to pull out the pop but it must have been really cold. Because she dropped it. And of course…phobe got it. No bebe…I told her it was dirty. Because she was going to reach down and grab it from the grouchy dog….hmmm lets keep the fingers kid. Phobe must have gotten brain freeze from trying to eat it. And step back from it. Beebee eattttt…and she pointed at it…LOL Now she was commanding the little grouchy blk dog. Who was looking at her like who is this little shit and who is she to tell me what to do!
The gang of kids left to bike ride and we made ourselves comfortable on the 2 seater swing. I was watching my little blk dog as we were swing. who dat? phoebe…i said coco no phoebe. Then she started her roll call as her mother calls it. where papaw…i don’t know…home she said. No we are at papaw. were coco? at Trish's i said. what dat? pointing at Dr. pepper…drrpep she said. what dat?…and while we swung she continued to absorb all the answers that i was giving her to her numerous amount of questioning of what dat? All I needed was a giant light and I would feel like I was being grilled. Then she jumped down and commanded becca come on…and we went toward the house. She threw away her trash!!! She definitely doesn’t get that from my brother in laws side of the family…lol then she commanded becca come on…bebe come on…we were on our way back outside. Course It was time to leave…sad part is I think that was the longest conversation that I have had today…Sad isn’t it?

Cutting the child in half

King Solomon once was in a predicament of having to cut a child in half because two woman were arguing over a child. What do you do when the parents that were never married fight over one? Who should get the child? Why is it the woman should get the child when I have seen just as many men raising kids? We have a black president now…so things are changing…so why can’t guys get full custody just as easy as woman? Just because she went thru labor that makes it her right?
Being on the other fence of this makes it difficult to support that fathers should have that equal right. My kids don’t see their sperm donor cause he is a low life. Its not that I don’t let him. Because no matter how much i loathe him I would never stand between him and his kids. Why would I want my kids growing up and realizing that I kept them from him. Because usually kids become the wiser and realize the one bad mouthing the parent and not letting them see them was being selfish. Which means they might have the kid for the first 18yrs but after than they may not want anything to do with the mom that shut the dad out.
So what do you tell the dad that wants custody? I don’t think he wants to take away her custody. Just switch week to week or just be allowed to see his kid without all the childish games. The biggest thing is he is tired of this bitch, because she has him jumping through all these hoops. He can’t date anyone or she won’t let him see his child. He isn’t allowed to have his kid over night because he might not hear her cry? Give me a brake. I like to choke the crap out of her.
I don’t understand. He works, doesn’t drink or smoke and wants to be in his kids life. He is a good dad and has never been arrested or in trouble. I think she just enjoys making his life miserable….when it was her that didn’t take the birth control pill in order to try to trap him. So apparently she wanted him in her life…grrr
The sad part is she is in her 20’s and still living with mommy? He at least has his own place…grr
So I am open to all advice..besides beating the crap out of her myself.

Cause I know I would go to jail…and I didn’t go thru all this hell of nursing school to blow it on one stupid little girl

Stripped Lobster

Why you don’t let your 10 yr old apply sunscreen to your back. Mommy I didn’t want to get the straps on your dress dirty with sunscreen. Okay…not thinking…so I have 2inch strips of Bright red sunburn on either side of where my straps were. Thanks..lol Ouch ouch ouch!